After reading When You Are Engulfed in Flames (Sedaris) and Japan Ai, I think I am quite convinced that Will and I should go to Japan. Either in the spring of 2009, or 2010.
Going in 2009 would be awesome, as it would coincide with our 30th birthdays, but I don't think that's enough time for me to crash-course some Japanese and figure out everywhere I want to visit.
Going in 2009 would be awesome, as it would coincide with our 30th birthdays, but I don't think that's enough time for me to crash-course some Japanese and figure out everywhere I want to visit.
i am aware that all my posts are about my relationship.
kind of hard to think of anything else right now.
I am amazed by how much indefinite waiting hurts. waiting...for an unknown amount of time, for an unknown result. it is a terrible, terrible feeling. I sit here and wait for a call i thought i was going to get yesterday/day before/ day before and that call hasnt come. I dont know what im supposed to do...he asked me to wait...and i dont know if hes going to be mad that i didnt call on his birthday or mail a card or anything. that sounds harsh and callous, but he said not ot mail the package, and to just wait for him, and that he would call me on his birthday. I wanted to respect that, and it has taken alot of strength to not mail, or call, or anything. And i cant help but feel that he will be broken hearted that i didnt do those things. maybe i misunderstood. i heard what he said but i didnt hear what he felt.
It is the most difficult pain to deal with, to wait indefinitely to know if you are still romantically involved, if the next phone call will be the last one, at least until that whimsical time in the future everyone talks about when things are "meant to be". To wait while the person you love may be heartbroken that you havent called or contacted despite their wishes...am i supposed to break those wait rules for special occasions? to what degree can i break them?
i dont think its "unfair" that he has asked me to wait. as painful as it is, i asked teh same thing of him. i asked him to just be patient and wait while i figured out if i was moving back home and if i wanted to pursue a long distance relationship. now i know just how painful it is and how twisted your thoughts can get, how unstoppable they can be sometimes. I asked him to wait, and he did. but it shook his faith a bit. and i understand. now im sitting here waiting...past the point he said he would call....
if we were to continue this long distance relationship, i dont have an answer for when i would be back in california. and thus we would have to wait. indefinitely. for something that is uncertain. this feeling of waiting to get the call that determines our relationship is just that. its a gut wrenching feeling i wouldnt wish upon anyone else, and wish Bryan never had to have that feeling either.
i thnk the "time to think" is mature and necessary. but good christ is it painful. its like childbirth...its a very painful process with many 3 am tears, but eventually it yields new life. and that new life will either be together or seperate in the case of Bryan and I.
If he calls and says that this isnt working out, which is a high possibility, I will tell him that i now understand the pain of waiting, but understand its necessity as well and thus am not mad or resentful. And if staying otgether means more of this waiting pain, i wouldnt wish this pain upon anyone, especially him. if i loved him any less i would feel no guilt in bargaining to buy more time, but knowing that the bargained time would just extend his pain doesnt make any sense.
kind of hard to think of anything else right now.
I am amazed by how much indefinite waiting hurts. waiting...for an unknown amount of time, for an unknown result. it is a terrible, terrible feeling. I sit here and wait for a call i thought i was going to get yesterday/day before/ day before and that call hasnt come. I dont know what im supposed to do...he asked me to wait...and i dont know if hes going to be mad that i didnt call on his birthday or mail a card or anything. that sounds harsh and callous, but he said not ot mail the package, and to just wait for him, and that he would call me on his birthday. I wanted to respect that, and it has taken alot of strength to not mail, or call, or anything. And i cant help but feel that he will be broken hearted that i didnt do those things. maybe i misunderstood. i heard what he said but i didnt hear what he felt.
It is the most difficult pain to deal with, to wait indefinitely to know if you are still romantically involved, if the next phone call will be the last one, at least until that whimsical time in the future everyone talks about when things are "meant to be". To wait while the person you love may be heartbroken that you havent called or contacted despite their wishes...am i supposed to break those wait rules for special occasions? to what degree can i break them?
i dont think its "unfair" that he has asked me to wait. as painful as it is, i asked teh same thing of him. i asked him to just be patient and wait while i figured out if i was moving back home and if i wanted to pursue a long distance relationship. now i know just how painful it is and how twisted your thoughts can get, how unstoppable they can be sometimes. I asked him to wait, and he did. but it shook his faith a bit. and i understand. now im sitting here waiting...past the point he said he would call....
if we were to continue this long distance relationship, i dont have an answer for when i would be back in california. and thus we would have to wait. indefinitely. for something that is uncertain. this feeling of waiting to get the call that determines our relationship is just that. its a gut wrenching feeling i wouldnt wish upon anyone else, and wish Bryan never had to have that feeling either.
i thnk the "time to think" is mature and necessary. but good christ is it painful. its like childbirth...its a very painful process with many 3 am tears, but eventually it yields new life. and that new life will either be together or seperate in the case of Bryan and I.
If he calls and says that this isnt working out, which is a high possibility, I will tell him that i now understand the pain of waiting, but understand its necessity as well and thus am not mad or resentful. And if staying otgether means more of this waiting pain, i wouldnt wish this pain upon anyone, especially him. if i loved him any less i would feel no guilt in bargaining to buy more time, but knowing that the bargained time would just extend his pain doesnt make any sense.
...but without hair, y'know. Ow.
Anyway. A judge in New Zealand (site of an invasion by aliens who sliced up the inhabitants of a small town so thin they fit in a few boxes) just intervened so that a 9-year-old girl could change her name.
Her name? Talula Does the Hula From Hawaii.
Now, we've all heard the stories about Lemonjello and his brother Orangejello. And about the little girl named Placenta. Or Female (feh-MAL-ay). And those are bullshit. Rather, they're examples of racist humor, made all the more noxious because they're not presented as humor.
But the fact remains, evidently, that there are people who name their children utterly ridiculous things, not because they don't know any better, but because they are wrong in the head. (Unless you think having twins named "Fish and Chips" is somehow clever.)
And, just to remind folks, I knew a guy in Toledo named Tsenre (his dad's name was Ernest, so they named him after his dad, just spelled backwards). We just called him "T." He played a Bastet in a game I ran. Pumonca, I think.
Anyway. A judge in New Zealand (site of an invasion by aliens who sliced up the inhabitants of a small town so thin they fit in a few boxes) just intervened so that a 9-year-old girl could change her name.
Her name? Talula Does the Hula From Hawaii.
Now, we've all heard the stories about Lemonjello and his brother Orangejello. And about the little girl named Placenta. Or Female (feh-MAL-ay). And those are bullshit. Rather, they're examples of racist humor, made all the more noxious because they're not presented as humor.
But the fact remains, evidently, that there are people who name their children utterly ridiculous things, not because they don't know any better, but because they are wrong in the head. (Unless you think having twins named "Fish and Chips" is somehow clever.)
And, just to remind folks, I knew a guy in Toledo named Tsenre (his dad's name was Ernest, so they named him after his dad, just spelled backwards). We just called him "T." He played a Bastet in a game I ran. Pumonca, I think.
- 08:13 Got to terminal on time. Twice! Once at 8am. Once after going back to car to get iPhone. Whew! #
- 10:46 And we have arrived in Atlanta! That's where the San Diego comicon is, right? #
- 10:56 Oh, it's just a connecting flight. I wondered about the disconnect in convention name/city. ;) #
- 15:57 The Nerd Eagle has landed. I repeat: The Nerd Eagle has landed! #
- 16:53 Computers are down at the hostel, so we can't check in, but there's an Irish pub across the street and we're in it. So it's all good. #
- 16:56 This is why I'm all good: twitpic.com/55g4 #
- 17:26 It's a local brew from the pub itself. A refreshing pale ale. #
- 17:29 For the record, when Matt gets the hiccups, dude does not mess around. #
- 19:44 Oh, Irish boxty, how I love you, even if you do remind me of that kid from Battlestar Galactica with the robot bear. #
- 21:37 And we're all set up! Check it out! twitpic.com/56gt #
- 23:02 The small press area is currently an island of calm in a sea of WTF. #
- 23:15 And just like that, the audience was gone. Kinda creepy actually. #
- 23:46 Well "preview night" is done. Tomorrow the convention begins! (Gonna go collapse now.) #
depressedyou know since i moved from california and left my boyfriend..or sort of boyfriend...i dont know if i can call him that anymore or at least right now...i have read multiple books. and bought more. and took pictures of the covers of the ones i couldnt buy. if my relationship doesnt work out...i dont want another one for a long time. i dont want another. if i get into another....thats it. thats gotta be -the- one. i cant go through this breakup thing again.
I thought Bryan was the one. I really did. I know i sound ridiculous, we have had so much drama. but christ i thought he was it, ive never met someone for the first time and thought "this is what grandmom was talking about" everyone in my family has said that they knew in the first look, just by instinct, that their spouse was the one. now...take that with a grain of salt. i dont think there are soulmates. And of course if your still married and in love your going to give the "from the first time i saw them..." speech. But with Bryan the look was familiar, like ive seen him before. it breaks my heart to hear him so pained. to hear him feel so betrayed. to hear his heart break in his silence over the phone after he said "I dont want to do this anymore" The dissappointment that i may have been wrong about thinking i finally found the one is crushing. thats why some breakups are so hard. breakups, to me, are hard for 2 reasons. either 1) you havent been 'heard out' and they just dont understand (the "right-fighting" side) or 2.) your extremely disappointed this wonderful person may not be the one. thats where i am now. Bryan is flawed, lets be real, but we all are. if we were perfect, we wouldnt need love.
I had my hopes that Bryan was it. And thats why it hurts to hear otherwise. People would tell me that if in my heart of hearts I felt that he was it, i would make a plan. i would make a hard core set in stone plan that i would return to california, or he would move out to where i was, in a year, and that i would have faith rather than fear of "what im going to do". but its hard for me to gauge a year of my future on a 3 month relationship. christ a YEAR ago i wouldnt think id ever set foot in california in the first place. lots of shit happens in a year.
Bryan was supposed to call on his birthday. which was yesterday. he neevr called. i dont blame him. today his friends are driving 2 1/2 hours north on a weekday to throw him a party. i dont blame him for not calling today.
I thought Bryan was the one. I really did. I know i sound ridiculous, we have had so much drama. but christ i thought he was it, ive never met someone for the first time and thought "this is what grandmom was talking about" everyone in my family has said that they knew in the first look, just by instinct, that their spouse was the one. now...take that with a grain of salt. i dont think there are soulmates. And of course if your still married and in love your going to give the "from the first time i saw them..." speech. But with Bryan the look was familiar, like ive seen him before. it breaks my heart to hear him so pained. to hear him feel so betrayed. to hear his heart break in his silence over the phone after he said "I dont want to do this anymore" The dissappointment that i may have been wrong about thinking i finally found the one is crushing. thats why some breakups are so hard. breakups, to me, are hard for 2 reasons. either 1) you havent been 'heard out' and they just dont understand (the "right-fighting" side) or 2.) your extremely disappointed this wonderful person may not be the one. thats where i am now. Bryan is flawed, lets be real, but we all are. if we were perfect, we wouldnt need love.
I had my hopes that Bryan was it. And thats why it hurts to hear otherwise. People would tell me that if in my heart of hearts I felt that he was it, i would make a plan. i would make a hard core set in stone plan that i would return to california, or he would move out to where i was, in a year, and that i would have faith rather than fear of "what im going to do". but its hard for me to gauge a year of my future on a 3 month relationship. christ a YEAR ago i wouldnt think id ever set foot in california in the first place. lots of shit happens in a year.
Bryan was supposed to call on his birthday. which was yesterday. he neevr called. i dont blame him. today his friends are driving 2 1/2 hours north on a weekday to throw him a party. i dont blame him for not calling today.
worn out
Why are movies so DAMNED male centric?
My scripts had multiple women with names. Talking to each other. About something other than men. That, they explained nervously, was not okay. I asked why. Well, it would be more accurate to say I politely demanded a thorough, logical explanation that made sense for a change (I’d found the “audience won’t watch women!” argument pretty questionable, with its ever-shifting reasons and parameters).
At first I got several tentative murmurings about how it distracted from the flow or point of the story. I went through this with more than one professor, more than one industry professional. Finally, I got one blessedly telling explanation: “The audience doesn’t want to listen to a bunch of women talking about whatever it is women talk about.”
“Not even if it advances the story?” I asked. That’s rule number one in screenwriting, though you’d never know it from watching most movies: every moment in a script should reveal another chunk of the story and keep it moving.
He just looked embarrassed and said, “I mean, that’s not how I see it, that’s how they see it.”
My scripts had multiple women with names. Talking to each other. About something other than men. That, they explained nervously, was not okay. I asked why. Well, it would be more accurate to say I politely demanded a thorough, logical explanation that made sense for a change (I’d found the “audience won’t watch women!” argument pretty questionable, with its ever-shifting reasons and parameters).
At first I got several tentative murmurings about how it distracted from the flow or point of the story. I went through this with more than one professor, more than one industry professional. Finally, I got one blessedly telling explanation: “The audience doesn’t want to listen to a bunch of women talking about whatever it is women talk about.”
“Not even if it advances the story?” I asked. That’s rule number one in screenwriting, though you’d never know it from watching most movies: every moment in a script should reveal another chunk of the story and keep it moving.
He just looked embarrassed and said, “I mean, that’s not how I see it, that’s how they see it.”
No, I'm not blogging like its the end of the world. ![[info]](http://p-stat.livejournal.com/img/userinfo.gif)
beloitst asked that I make an AFMBE character today, and why not?
But first, an update. Hmm.
Development continues apace on 451. Had to do something yesterday that really sucked, involved giving bad news to an author. I hate that. I want everything to be perfect, and that never happens. Never goes smooth. And I try like hell to be communicative with my authors, to avoid last-minute fall-aparts. BLAAAAAAAAAH.
Maybe the next one, due in about a week, will go smooth.
I actually did more today than I thought I would, so maybe tonight I can get the family out of the house and somewhere interesting.
Ah, but first:
The Game: All Flesh Must Be Eaten
The publisher: Eden Studios.
Degree of familiarity: Some. I've run it a few times, played it a few times, and done a little teeny bit of writing for it (part of Worlds of the Dead). I'd like to do more, but I don't know what their production schedule is like and I'm kind of spoiled by White Wolf, believe it or not (or maybe it's just that I'm familiar with their brand of chaos). Oh, I also wrote an essay about running AFMBE.
Books required: Just the AFMBE book, though I might use others, depending on what I decide to do.
( Don't be unreasonable. I need my eyes! )
And that's my character for the day. Tomorrow...how about Run Robot Red?
beloitst asked that I make an AFMBE character today, and why not?But first, an update. Hmm.
Development continues apace on 451. Had to do something yesterday that really sucked, involved giving bad news to an author. I hate that. I want everything to be perfect, and that never happens. Never goes smooth. And I try like hell to be communicative with my authors, to avoid last-minute fall-aparts. BLAAAAAAAAAH.
Maybe the next one, due in about a week, will go smooth.
I actually did more today than I thought I would, so maybe tonight I can get the family out of the house and somewhere interesting.
Ah, but first:
The Game: All Flesh Must Be Eaten
The publisher: Eden Studios.
Degree of familiarity: Some. I've run it a few times, played it a few times, and done a little teeny bit of writing for it (part of Worlds of the Dead). I'd like to do more, but I don't know what their production schedule is like and I'm kind of spoiled by White Wolf, believe it or not (or maybe it's just that I'm familiar with their brand of chaos). Oh, I also wrote an essay about running AFMBE.
Books required: Just the AFMBE book, though I might use others, depending on what I decide to do.
( Don't be unreasonable. I need my eyes! )
And that's my character for the day. Tomorrow...how about Run Robot Red?
As some 10,000 mail carriers gather in Boston this week for the 66th biennial convention of the National Association of Letter Carriers, Peterson is on a one-man mission to persuade his colleagues to approve a change in their strictly regulated uniforms. He has proposed a resolution to allow mailmen to wear kilts, which he calls a Male Unbifurcated Garment, or MUG.
I will be sleeping in my new apartment starting tomorrow night... I'll still have stuff to move, but my bed will be in the new place so I will be "officially" living there.
If you need/want my new address and I have not emailed it to you, it might be because I lost your email or never had it. Please a comment on this post (screened) with your email address and I'll send you my new address!
*huggles* to everyone.
If you need/want my new address and I have not emailed it to you, it might be because I lost your email or never had it. Please a comment on this post (screened) with your email address and I'll send you my new address!
*huggles* to everyone.
- Location:work
- Mood:
surviving on 4 hrs of sleep
Won't hear back about the apartments until at LEAST tomorrow, because April isn't even there today.
Ugh.
Ugh.
- Mood:
annoyed
Well.
Charger's dead and gone.
That's not good.
And my monitor with all the black spots on it, I can't even see how much my computer is even charged right now so I have no idea how long I have on this thing.
So... uh... yeah. If I'm offline for a few days, you guys know why.
Charger's dead and gone.
That's not good.
And my monitor with all the black spots on it, I can't even see how much my computer is even charged right now so I have no idea how long I have on this thing.
So... uh... yeah. If I'm offline for a few days, you guys know why.
- Mood: annoyed
I need a new battery and charger for my laptop.
ARGH. Why do things I need to spend a lot of money on keep popping up!?
... Where IS the Apple store closest to here? I'll have to look that up... meh.
Supposed to hear back about the apartment today. I'm not even going to bother crossing my fingers, it had just better happen (watch, she won't call until I'm at work and can't even get to my phone until 7)
Gonna go take a shower then see about calling about the ticket afterwards (going to wait until after 9 to make sure they'll even be there) *SIGH*
Battery charger keeps not working... the cord is messed up. And the battery's lasting power is dwindeling... I seriously need to make the Apple store trip soon or I will not be getting online for a while. ;P
ARGH. Why do things I need to spend a lot of money on keep popping up!?
... Where IS the Apple store closest to here? I'll have to look that up... meh.
Supposed to hear back about the apartment today. I'm not even going to bother crossing my fingers, it had just better happen (watch, she won't call until I'm at work and can't even get to my phone until 7)
Gonna go take a shower then see about calling about the ticket afterwards (going to wait until after 9 to make sure they'll even be there) *SIGH*
Battery charger keeps not working... the cord is messed up. And the battery's lasting power is dwindeling... I seriously need to make the Apple store trip soon or I will not be getting online for a while. ;P
- Mood:
busy
First, a ( Changeling update. )
And now:
The Game: Batman Roleplaying Game
The publisher: Mayfair Games, originally, this book is long out of print. You could get it from Amazon for a few bucks, though.
Degree of familiarity: I've read it, and I made a character (Countdown, actually, who was an NPC in my Silver Age Sentinels game) a long time ago. Never played it, never ran it.
Books required: Just the little ol' core book. Doesn't even have a character sheet, and I can't find one online.
( Did you notice that the guy who played Bat Manuel on The Tick played the mayor in Dark Knight? )
And that's it! Tomorrow...I dunno, something! Any requests from the list?
And now:
The Game: Batman Roleplaying Game
The publisher: Mayfair Games, originally, this book is long out of print. You could get it from Amazon for a few bucks, though.
Degree of familiarity: I've read it, and I made a character (Countdown, actually, who was an NPC in my Silver Age Sentinels game) a long time ago. Never played it, never ran it.
Books required: Just the little ol' core book. Doesn't even have a character sheet, and I can't find one online.
( Did you notice that the guy who played Bat Manuel on The Tick played the mayor in Dark Knight? )
And that's it! Tomorrow...I dunno, something! Any requests from the list?
Hi Cats,
Now I'm having problems w/ connecting to the internet, so COTC will be this Friday. The cable guy is coming over tomorrow, so I hope have stuff loaded up soon.
Now I'm having problems w/ connecting to the internet, so COTC will be this Friday. The cable guy is coming over tomorrow, so I hope have stuff loaded up soon.
- Mood: pissed off
Long distance relationships are work intensive and sensitive. They don't always bring out the best of us, but they CAN make us better.
For a long distance relationship to work, you have to work as a team towards the greater good…the greater good being the happiness of both people, whatever that entails. and it means sacraficing the urge to tang on to offenses and irritations.
Achieving the greater good is difficult. It takes sacrifice of a lot of things. Such as forgetting about being "right" to remember that your partner isn't a criminal. Forgetting about "poor me" because your partner isn't making decisions out of malice. Forgetting about defending yourself when your partner thinks theire right because underneath it, theyre really just hurting. You shouldn't have to defend yourself from your partner, and likewise you shouldn't incriminate your partner.
If I may use a sports metaphor: Your partner is your teammate. They may misstep and misjudge, they may not notice that they stepped on your toes, or that you were open to take the ball, or that you were hurt by one of their actions. Our partner might not be skilled at making the shot all the time. You may even be this partner. Realistically, both people have these qualities to varying degrees. No player in a team is perfect. That's why you have a TEAM. And remembering where your team member is wrong or flawed is productive in making them a better team member, but when all you do is call time outs to argue about it, your not making any headway in the game.
With Bryan…he is still right-fighting and incriminates me a lot more than I think is just, but he does this because ultimately he is hurting, and that's more important to resolve than to defend myself. and i would do anything and everything, even if it means letting go and doing nothing, to ensure that he is ultimately in a better state of mind and in a better position to be a happier person. These principles apply to both of you.
It is easier to be angry than it is to be lonely, and thus we often find the greatest flaws in our partner when we have to go into a long distance relationship. what can you let go of and what is a major flaw? some "quirks" you just have to let them have, some really are detrimental, but beyond the flaws you both have to work together to find a solution to address the greater good of you both being happy. whatever you have to selfishly and selflessly do.
Furthermore….the communication thing…is true of all long distance. You do not add value to the relationship or make "special memories" via fb messages, phone calls, emails, etc. you need to get creative. Send packages. Unique quirky sometimes random unexplainable ones, ones that are sweet, endearing, burn cds, mail puzzles and race to get them done..
On the note of going international, it IS very difficult. When you move, anywhere, so long as there is a cultural difference (could even be to another state!) you will grow as a person out of the sight of your partner. This goes for both you and Kody. It is most difficult when the things you do in your everyday life become so radically different, or when one person moves and the other person stays. Is is extremely difficult for both people. One person is leaving the other and has new adventures, the other is experiencing life as usual, just without the other person. To the person leaving: if the answer to "what did you do today" is mundane or annoying, ask better questions. Opinion questions, current event questions, etc etc. To the person thats been left: make your life more than "my everyday life without the other person". its repetative, tis depressing, and routine doesnt add value to your life experience. the other person's life is out of the normal routine, thus it seems "exciting" your life can be exciting too! go do something new! youll add value to your daily life experience, make memories that will keep you from reverting to sad/nostalgic ones (not replace) and youll have something to share with your partner when they ask the dreaded question "What did you do today?" because instead of getting into great detail about the mundane, you can say "Hey i blah blah blah!"
For a long distance relationship to work, you have to work as a team towards the greater good…the greater good being the happiness of both people, whatever that entails. and it means sacraficing the urge to tang on to offenses and irritations.
Achieving the greater good is difficult. It takes sacrifice of a lot of things. Such as forgetting about being "right" to remember that your partner isn't a criminal. Forgetting about "poor me" because your partner isn't making decisions out of malice. Forgetting about defending yourself when your partner thinks theire right because underneath it, theyre really just hurting. You shouldn't have to defend yourself from your partner, and likewise you shouldn't incriminate your partner.
If I may use a sports metaphor: Your partner is your teammate. They may misstep and misjudge, they may not notice that they stepped on your toes, or that you were open to take the ball, or that you were hurt by one of their actions. Our partner might not be skilled at making the shot all the time. You may even be this partner. Realistically, both people have these qualities to varying degrees. No player in a team is perfect. That's why you have a TEAM. And remembering where your team member is wrong or flawed is productive in making them a better team member, but when all you do is call time outs to argue about it, your not making any headway in the game.
With Bryan…he is still right-fighting and incriminates me a lot more than I think is just, but he does this because ultimately he is hurting, and that's more important to resolve than to defend myself. and i would do anything and everything, even if it means letting go and doing nothing, to ensure that he is ultimately in a better state of mind and in a better position to be a happier person. These principles apply to both of you.
It is easier to be angry than it is to be lonely, and thus we often find the greatest flaws in our partner when we have to go into a long distance relationship. what can you let go of and what is a major flaw? some "quirks" you just have to let them have, some really are detrimental, but beyond the flaws you both have to work together to find a solution to address the greater good of you both being happy. whatever you have to selfishly and selflessly do.
Furthermore….the communication thing…is true of all long distance. You do not add value to the relationship or make "special memories" via fb messages, phone calls, emails, etc. you need to get creative. Send packages. Unique quirky sometimes random unexplainable ones, ones that are sweet, endearing, burn cds, mail puzzles and race to get them done..
On the note of going international, it IS very difficult. When you move, anywhere, so long as there is a cultural difference (could even be to another state!) you will grow as a person out of the sight of your partner. This goes for both you and Kody. It is most difficult when the things you do in your everyday life become so radically different, or when one person moves and the other person stays. Is is extremely difficult for both people. One person is leaving the other and has new adventures, the other is experiencing life as usual, just without the other person. To the person leaving: if the answer to "what did you do today" is mundane or annoying, ask better questions. Opinion questions, current event questions, etc etc. To the person thats been left: make your life more than "my everyday life without the other person". its repetative, tis depressing, and routine doesnt add value to your life experience. the other person's life is out of the normal routine, thus it seems "exciting" your life can be exciting too! go do something new! youll add value to your daily life experience, make memories that will keep you from reverting to sad/nostalgic ones (not replace) and youll have something to share with your partner when they ask the dreaded question "What did you do today?" because instead of getting into great detail about the mundane, you can say "Hey i blah blah blah!"
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